How to Prepare for Divorce: A Rough Overview for Overcoming the Challenges of Ending Your Marriage

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Going through a divorce can be one of the most difficult and emotionally challenging experiences of your life. From legal battles to financial uncertainties, the divorce process can feel overwhelming and stressful. If you’re facing the prospect of divorce, it’s important to take proactive steps to prepare yourself for the road ahead. This article will provide you with a comprehensive guide to preparing for divorce, including how to get organized, seek legal advice, prioritize your mental health, and plan for your future. By following these steps, you can overcome the challenges of divorce and move forward with confidence and clarity.

Understanding the Divorce Process

The first step in preparing for divorce is to understand the divorce process in your state. The process can vary depending on where you live, but generally, divorce involves the following steps:

  • Filing a petition for divorce: This is the initial legal document that starts the divorce process. The petitioner (the spouse who files for divorce) must provide the court with information about the marriage, such as the date of the marriage, the grounds for divorce, and any relevant issues like child custody or property division that need to be dealt with.
  • Serving the petition: The petitioner must then serve the petition on the other spouse (the respondent), who has thirty days to respond to the allegations.
  • Discovery: This is the process of gathering information about the marriage, such as financial documents, property deeds, and other relevant information if necessary.
  • Negotiation: The spouses and their lawyers will negotiate a settlement agreement that addresses issues like child custody, spousal support, and property division.
  • Trial: If the spouses are unable to reach a settlement agreement, the case will go to trial, where a judge will make a final decision about the divorce terms.

Working with a Lawyer

Divorce can be a complex legal process and working with a lawyer is essential to protecting your rights and achieving the best possible outcome. A divorce lawyer can help you by:

  • Filing the petition and other legal documents;
  • Negotiating settlement agreements;
  • Representing you in Court hearings;
  • Advising you on your rights and obligations; and
  • Helping you understand the legal process.

When choosing a lawyer, it’s important to find someone who has experience in divorce law and who you feel comfortable working with.

Alternative Dispute Resolution Methods

Not all divorces have to go to trial. Truth be told, divorces dealing with only the actual divorce and property typically settle long before stepping foot inside the courtroom. In North Carolina, mediation is required when property distribution is up in the air or when child custody needs to be determined.

Alternative dispute resolution methods can be faster and less expensive than going to trial, and they can also help preserve the relationship between you and your spouse while getting an equitable outcome.

Child Custody

If you have children, one of the most important issues in your divorce will be child custody. In most cases, it’s in the best interest of the child to have both parents involved in their life. There are two types of custody:

  • Physical custody: Where the child lives. Think of this as a “timeshare.”
  • Legal custody: Who makes decisions about the child’s upbringing. This is typically referred to with the terms “sole” and “joint” custody.

The court will consider several factors when deciding child custody, including:

  • The child’s age, health, and emotional well-being.
  • The parents’ ability to provide for the child’s needs.
  • The child’s relationship with each parent.
  • Any history of abuse or neglect.

Working with a lawyer can help ensure that your rights as a parent are protected and that your child’s best interests are taken into account. The best interest of the minor child or children is the guiding principle for the Judges to consider.

Alimony/Spousal Support

Alimony, also known as spousal support, is another important issue to consider when preparing for divorce. Alimony is financial support that one spouse pays to the other after the divorce is final. The purpose of alimony is to help the lower-earning spouse maintain their standard of living after the divorce.

The amount and duration of alimony can vary depending on several factors, including:

  • The length of the marriage;
  • The income and earning potential of each spouse;
  • The standard of living during the marriage;
  • The age and health of each spouse; and
  • Any other relevant factors

Working with a lawyer can help ensure that you receive a fair amount of alimony, or that you are not required to pay more than you can afford.

Property Division

In a divorce, property division is the process of dividing marital assets and debts between the spouses. Marital assets typically include property acquired during the marriage, such as a home, car, or savings account. Marital debts include debts incurred during the marriage, such as a mortgage or credit card debt. A general rule of thumb is everything gained from date of marriage to date of separation is considered marital unless proven otherwise.

Property division can be a complex process, and it’s important to work with a lawyer to ensure that your rights are protected. The court will consider several factors when dividing property, including:

  • The length of the marriage;
  • The contribution of each spouse to the marriage;
  • The value of each spouse’s separate property; and
  • The economic circumstances of each spouse.

Separation Agreement

A separation agreement is a legal document that outlines the terms of a separation, including issues like child custody, alimony, and property division. A separation agreement can be helpful in simplifying the divorce process, as it can serve as the basis for a final divorce agreement. Working with a lawyer to create a separation agreement can help ensure that your rights are protected and that the agreement is legally binding. Stay tuned for an upcoming piece describing this more in detail.

Grounds for Divorce

Finally, it’s important to understand the grounds for divorce in your state. North Carolina is a no-fault divorce state and only requires:

  1. A period of physical separation between the Parties for over one year;
  2. One of the Parties desiring a divorce and believing the bonds of matrimony are broken; and
  3. For one of the Parties to have resided in North Carolina for the six months immediately preceding the filing of the action.

The Verdict

Preparing for divorce can be a complex and challenging process, but by understanding the divorce process, working with a lawyer, considering alternative dispute resolution methods, prioritizing your mental health, and planning for your future, you can navigate the challenges ahead with confidence.

At The Law Office of Nathan Earwood, we understand how difficult the divorce process can be, and we are committed to helping our clients achieve the best possible outcome for their situation. If you are facing divorce and need legal guidance, please don’t hesitate to call us at 828-354-4300 or use our online contact form. Our experienced team of divorce lawyers is here to provide you with compassionate and effective legal representation every step of the way.